Have a Great Valentines Day!
(Even in a Pandemic)
Being alone this Valentine’s Day
is just par for my course. I’ve been in a long-distance relationship for years now. Yes, I said years. My partner works in the U.S.A. full time, he has long work weeks. I live in Canada, so we don’t see each other often. We text a lot and see each other about once or twice a month-not counting this pandemic. This works for us. We are always excited to see one another, we don’t get on each others nerves and we rarely argue.
Instead of whinning that I am usually alone on this holiday, I decided long ago that this day would still be a celebration. It happens that works perfectly in a pandemic too. I celebrate my love for my life and myself. I like love. I like being in love and I feel extremely grateful for the man in my life-he is amazing. He sometimes gets me a gift and sometimes he is so busy-it doesn’t happen and I understand that. So, I celebrate love, our love, the love for my kids, friends, family, my dog and everything else that I have in my life that I love. I don’t set myself up for expectations of grandure. So I don’t get disappointed, I get just what I want. (Honestly, who better to pick out a nice gift, for me, from me, than me-it’s always perfect!)
I like to have a nod to Valentine’s in my style choices on the 14th. That might mean wearing my heart-shaped earrings. A touch of pink or red in my make-up or accessories. It’s a good day for an indulgence of high quality chocolates or better yet a red velvet cupcake-oooh or both-maybe both this year! I’d add listening to your favourite love songs, but I do that all the time. I’m currently listening to the Shakespeare In Love soundtrack as I write.
The point is that you don’t have to do what I love to do. You can do what you love. Love working out-great, plan a workout. Have a small bottle of champagne for one, you are worth it, have it while in a bubble bath. Plan a FaceTime with your BFF, take your dog on a walk. Go for a long drive with a scenic view. Plan to do what you love. If you are single this is the perfect plan. If you are in a relationship, but not bubbled with your significant other, then you can plan to do the same things-watch the same rom-com movie or documentary if that is more your style. Read the first chapter of the same book. Then call to discuss it. You can pick your favourite snack and so can they-and you don’t even have to share! You could put together a Valentine’s Day basket, box or even just a card and drop it off to them safely if you are not too far away.
Set yourself up for a good day. Celebrate love in which ever way feels best for you. Make it a day of self care, self indulgence or whatever you want. If you are lucky enough to have love, in whatever form that is-it’s certainly worth celebrating, even if that celebration is simply for one.
